Tuesday, February 17, 2009

A New Season

No, I know it's not spring yet but I see that a new season has begun in my home.
My son is not getting younger, no matter how badly I would like that to happen. We are starting to see the signs of puberty so my husband and I have decided that it's time to look at what we need to do to prepare our preteen for his future.
As we started talking about the expected up and coming events, I realized that this is going to be harder then bringing a new born home from the hospital. Needless to say, I was seventeen when I brought my son home. You would think that nothing could be harder than that, but I'm starting to think that that was a breeze compared to this.
We are already starting with the out bursts of tears for no reason at all. "Might I ask, is that not what girls do???" Of course, this only happens when he's over tired. So what do I do now, start an earlier bed time? It feels like time is moving backwards.
We have talked the puberty talk and we've talked the sex talk, so we don't need to worry about that, but it's the hormones that are taking me for a loop.
I know that their taking my poor son for a loop as well so we are going to try to do our best.
After much discussion and prayer, my husband and I have realized that this is the time. This is the time in my son's life that will impact him as an adult. Good or bad. When he becomes an adult his memories of life will be on these very years. They can make a impact on him in what he does and what we do. Talk about pressure!
We want him to enjoy these years and treasure them that he will want the same kind of life for his family. We want him to know where to go to find strength. We want him to become independent, responsible, respectful, joyful and know where the best place for him would be to find the love of his life. I could go on and on about all these big responsibilities. But I'm sure that it would never end.
This new season is going to be fun and stressful. This new season wont only be about him but us too. I can already see that we are growing from this knowledge and it gets me excited to see what God has planned for our life. I know there are many of you women that are in the same season as I am in. I'm thinking of you now and sending out a prayer for you all, because this is for our future.


mandbugg said...

I decided to blog so that I can keep in touch with my wonderful girl-friends as well as find other women that share my faith and belief in God, in order to stay uplifted and encouraged. To have my "voice" heard is to share what's in my heart and out of the mouth the abundance of the heart speaks. In all things may my Father in Heaven be glorified. I do what I can to encourage and uplift those around me. U should chat with my friend M@andy on my blog followers list - she is going through the same thing with her son and she brought him home from the hospital when she was 16. She is wonderfully beautiful - inside and out. Blessings. Mandy

andrea said...

wow! that cannot be easy! but like my dear friend told me lately, God will equipe and strengthen you for what He has called you to do! I have no clue about this stage of life...thanks for opening my eyes! You are a great mom!

candypb said...

I agree with your friend andrea, It's God who will give me the tools and strength to raise my son. I am in awh in this new season that we're in. I can only see great things come of it.

m@ndy said...

Wow, talk about relating! My 11 year old is about to test every test I thought I was past! I am enduring the puberty years also. I want to thank you, I never really put it quite in the perspective that you have. These are the times of times. What he is going to remember that is. Some times I look at him and just cry because my baby is growing up and I don't want him to and I don't know how to deal with it. But you have really inspired me to look at it a completely different way. It's a challenge either way we go, so it can be a fun one or I can make it difficult by stressing out! Just this afternoon God gave me confirmation of this exact concept. I don't have to. I don't have to bear this burden, HE will carry it for me and I can enjoy my son. Thanks so much! Be blessed!

andrea said...

after this post, God answered a prayer of mine. My would-be-godson-if-I-was-Catholic is turning 11 next Monday. And he has had a horrible life (5 dads before he turned 5), and much pain and now he is too street smart. He is begging me to come and stay with us. I was praying that someone would intervene in his life...and God picked me. So i am now parenting (weekends right now) to a pre-teen, three youngsters and waiting for a baby...
"we can do all things through Him who gives us strength"...and that comforts me. may you find comfort in Him today!

Wanda said...

Raising four children, One a boy was a challenge....these are the years of lots of prayer and understanding...

Looks like you and your husband alreay have a good handle on it!

Love and Hugs